Education Conversations

Looking forward to the second cycle of AY20-21

I woke up at 4:40 a.m., excited to get this second cycle of our outdoor, pandemic year going. I slowly gathered myself and then headed out for a nice 2.3 mile run in the very pleasant, cool, October morning air. The moon lit up the sky which made it feel like I was running at 7:00 a.m., instead of 5:00 a.m. During the run I focused on breathing entirely through my nose, which made the beginning of the run particularly difficult, but by the time I hit my stride I was breathing long, slow breaths, and I surprised myself by breaking the ten minute per mile mark by thirty seconds, in spite of the hills.

When I got back I showered, and then read some more of Breath, the book we are reading in the Education Conversations book group that I lead at the local library, and the book that has me focusing on how I breathe when I run and at at other times throughout the day. At 6:50 a.m. I double checked the weather forecast for the day and updated the website for our families, and was then distracted by a school bus pulling up outside for the first time this year. I was checking the weather and updating the website because we promise families that we will let them know by 7:00 a.m. if we have to meet remotely due to inclement weather. And I could only shake my head that kids were boarding the bus (not a very good Covid-19 practice) to go to school (also not a very good Covid-19 practice) while probably every Abrome Learner was still in bed, and would be for another couple of hours (our day starts at 10:00 a.m.).

After getting lost thinking about inhumane school schedules are (and not just for remote students), I meant to then settle into writing at around got sucked into checking my email, checking Slack, checking my messages, checking a chat board about Covid-19, checking the news, and checking social media. The world is still on fire.

But I am finally writing again. And I have less than an hour to get this blog post out so that I can show up on time for the first day of our second cycle. Fortunately I spent time last evening packing myself lunch, packing my backpack, and laying out the clothes and supplies I needed for today. That leaves me with less anxiety over time considering my detour into email, Slack, messages, chat boards, news, and social media.

This next cycle is hopefully a fabulous one. Unlike last cycle, when my cell had two Facilitators, this time I will be the lone Facilitator in the cell. We will have a visitor joining our cell for the first week who is hoping to start a teen-based Agile Learning Center in the near future, so that should be fun. We also shook up the compositions of the cells, so while I will have three of the same Learners I had in my cell last cycle, I will also have three Learners that were in the other cell.

Last cycle we were feeling our way through some of the challenges of being outdoors (especially when it was hot, or when it was colder and rained), being physically distant, and having some of the Learners and Facilitators that we wanted to be around in another part of the city. With this cycle we tried to organize the cells a bit more by age so that more Learners could be with Learners they could reliably show up for each day. However, given our limited cell sizes (maxing out at seven Learners per cell) we will need to make difficult calls each cycle, and the cutoff for who is in each cell will not always make each Learner happy. I had a couple of calls this weekend to explain that to Learners, but I also showed them the tracker we are using to ensure that over the eleven cycles of this academic year that they each get to spend time with every Learner and every Facilitator about the same amount of time as the other Learners get. The exception being siblings, who will always be in the same cell because the entire point of physically distant cells that meet for three weeks at a time is to prevent cross contamination of cells if someone in our community were to get infected.

With the two days off that we had last week I was able to get some rest and relaxation in. Although the day I took off for a road trip in rural Texas was far less relaxing than anticipated because I saw an ungodly number of political flags at every turn, and lots of drunk people congregating without masks each time I tried to visit a brewery or winery. And by lots, I mean I only saw one person (out of probably 200 total) wearing a mask when I drove by each establishment. And he was wearing it around his neck. I ended up not getting out of my vehicle at any of the four breweries or wineries, and returned home where I finally had a drink in shock at the disregard people have for controlling this pandemic, and quite frankly very concerned about the next several months.

But other than my day off, I was working and preparing for the coming cycle at Abrome, or for Abrome’s future. One task I finally got off my plate was doing an analysis of the survey each Abrome household filled out before we started the year. While I had reviewed the individual responses of each household (Learners and Facilitators), I had not found the time to take a step back and look at the overall posture the community was taking toward the pandemic in their personal lives. And I was thrilled to see that as a community we are doing quite well in our pandemic beliefs and practices. I wrote up a blog post on the results and shared it with the families, and I encourage anyone who is interested in enrolling at Abrome to look at it, as well. Anyone who does not take the pandemic seriously is not going to be a good fit here.

This cycle I plan to focus on being present with the Learners, being playful (and bringing games to the table each day), connecting with the Learners, and staying active. I also plan to finally learn how to solve a Rubik’s cube, and I want to learn the basics of playing the ukulele I bought for this year. Today I will also check in with the Learners to see if they want to do a longer-term project or activity this cycle. Of course I will continue to focus on getting a full night’s sleep each night (eight hours minimum for me), and I will encourage the Learners to do the same. And it should be fairly easy for them to get a full night’s sleep, because unlike their conventional schooled peers, their day starts at 10:00 a.m.—they don’t have to catch the bus at 6:50 a.m. in the morning.

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Cove photo by Thomas Park on Unsplash

Day 5 of AY20-21: starting to settle in

Day five of the academic year was also day one of the second week of the academic year. The first week was all about introducing or reintroducing ourselves to each other, reaffirming our principles and agreements, identifying challenges we had not fully prepared for, and learning how to work around the challenges on the go. And if day five is an indication of what the second week will be like, we will all be settling into the experience of Self-Directed Education fully outdoors in physically distant operating cells.

We started our day out with fewer Learners than usual. Our cell is maxed out with seven Learners, but one Learner is helping his grandparents move into a new house in another state, one Learner was resting after a minor injury he received over the weekend, and two Learners had appointments. With only three Learners and two Facilitators (yes, that’s a pretty wild Learner to Facilitator ratio) our morning meeting lasted only a few minutes. In those few minutes we reviewed the awarenesses raised and the practices proposed during our first Check-in and Change-up meeting on Friday. Especially the hydration practices.

A toad we stumbled across on our hike

A toad we stumbled across on our hike

After the morning meeting I asked the Learners if they were willing to walk to an elevated portion of the park we had not yet been to so I could try out the hotspot there. After a short hike everyone found a place to rest, drank water, and began to take in the new setting while I tried to set up for the morning check-in with Abrome’s remote Learners. Facilitator Lauren broke out some field guides and a couple Learners attempted to identify some nearby plants and insects, and a bird we saw last week. I had my meeting with the remote Learners, and found that that location was also not a great one for the hotspot.

After about an hour one of the Learners proposed we move to a more comfortable spot closer to the lake. As we walked we checked out a toad that didn’t seem to mind our presence. It was one of multiple occasions during the day when we stopped to admire animals that were out and about. Some of the other animals we checked out included turtles, tadpoles, and spiders. During our walk we stopped briefly to top off our water bottles before heading to our spot beneath a large pecan tree. It was a beautiful day with a light breeze and it seemed as though we could have spent our entire day there. But then the winds picked up and we decided that sitting under a pecan tree was not in the best interest of the group. We moved toward the edge of the water and set up under some sturdier trees. But because of a large number of ants at that location we scouted out a few other spots and finally settled on an area with shade, under sturdy trees, and with just a small handful of ants.

A Learner and I then decided we would give sitting on the dock a try, so we headed over and she began to crochet while I tried to build up the courage to jump in the cold water. Eventually the younger Learners and Facilitator Lauren also came over to the dock. While keeping our distance from each other we took in the beautiful weather and aesthetics. One of the younger Learners began to do some painting with water colors and Facilitator Lauren broke out her copy of Free to Learn and began to read.

One gentleman eventually came over to the dock to jump in the water, and we began to talk. Later another gentleman came over to do the same, along with his daughter and granddaughter. It turns out that the grown daughter planned on unschooling the granddaughter, so over the course of the next few hours everyone present had some great conversation about education and Self-Directed Education, and Abrome in particular. And I eventually jumped in the water. It was cold and refreshing.

Sitting on the dock; enjoying the day and enjoying each other

Sitting on the dock; enjoying the day and enjoying each other

I eventually had to break away to host another call for remote Learners. We later came together for our afternoon meeting and then gathered up our things and moved back to the pickup location. In reflection it was a restful and enjoyable day. We got in some exercise, some personal time, some good sun, and lots of great conversation. Guardians of two of the Learners sent me emails that night expressing their appreciation for Abrome and the experience it is providing their Learners. And as we continue to settle in, I anticipate that we will get to see these Learners begin to take advantage of the time they have to go deeper in conversation, in thought, and into their own interests.

Conversations About Schooling: Smart Schooling Book Group

The majority of the parents we talk to are not eagerly looking to provide their children with a rich, self-directed learning environment. Sadly, most of the parents we talk to are trying to save their children from the trauma that is so often associated with schooling (e.g., testing, sleep deprivation, depression, bullying). One of the greatest challenges we face when talking to those parents about Emancipated Learning as an alternative to school is that it is often the first time that they have heard of an educational environment that does not rely on coercion. Most of them have never been introduced to the notion of self-directed education, or they believe that self-directed education can be achieved by allowing a student to pick a topic they are expected to write a report about. They might have heard of homeschooling, but have never heard of unschooling, Sudbury Valley, or Summerhill.

Instead of being able to highlight how we are creating a psychologically safe learning space where young people can engage in deep, meaningful, and enduring learning experiences that will allow them to lead remarkable lives, we are left trying to educate them on human psychology, the history of schooling, and the science of learning. Needless to say, a 30-minute conversation covering such deep topics is typically not enough to compel parents to take meaningful action to improve their children’s learning experiences in their current schools, to move them to alternative schools that better meet their children’s needs, or to opt out of schooling altogether.

At the same time, there are a lot of teachers and administrators who know that something is not working at their schools, but do not know what they can do to substantially improve the situation.  They have most likely never been introduced to much of the research that proves that self-directed learning is the best way to deepen learning, promote lifelong learning, and eliminate much of the trauma associated with coercive schooling. It is not their fault, as the organizations they work for and the education schools that they attended go out of their way to ignore these topics, and instead focus on marginal reforms while pushing the baseline assumption that young people need to be forced to learn, and that schooling environments are where that happens.

In an attempt to spur the necessary conversations around education that are currently not being had, we will be hosting the “Smart Schooling Book Group” at the Laura Bush Community Library for the duration of this year. We will read one book each month that focuses on education, with an emphasis on the psychology that would ideally inform how we approach education, and then come together to discuss it on the last Thursday of each month. [Each Thursday during the Covid-19 pandemic]

We hope that young people, parents, future parents, teachers, and school administrators can all benefit from these readings and conversations. Hopefully some school board members will also drop in.

2024 Reading List
Jan - Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke
Feb - How to Raise an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
Mar - A Different Way to Learn by Naomi Fisher *
Apr - Immeasurable Outcomes by Gayle Greene *
May - Totto-chan by Tetsuko Kuroyanagi
Jun - Deep Play by Diane Ackerman
Jul - Walking with Sam by Andrew McCarthy *
Aug - An Ethic of Excellence by Ron Berger
Sep - Never Enough by Jennifer Breheny Wallace
Oct - I Never Thought of It That Way by Monica Guzmán
Nov - Make It Stick by Peter C. Brown
Dec - Thrivers by Michele Borba

2025 Reading List
Jan - Learning to Imagine by Andrew Shtulman
Feb - Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen by Michelle Icard
Mar - A Minor Revolution by Adam Benforado
Apr - What Happened To You? by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey
May - A Place to Belong by Amber O'Neal Johnston
Jun - Tiny Humans, Big Emotions by Alyssa Blask Campbell and Lauren Elizabeth Stauble 
Jul - Proust and the Squid by Maryanne Wolf

2017 Reading List
Jan 26 – Why Don't Students Like School? by Daniel Willingham
Feb 23 – The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine
Mar 30 – Wounded by School by Kirsten Olsen
Apr 27 – Free to Learn by Peter Gray
May 25 – Overschooled but Undereducated by John Abbott
Jun 29 – Ungifted: Intelligence Redefined by Scott Barry Kaufman
Jul 27 – The Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison Gopnik
Aug 31– Drive by Daniel Pink
Sep 28 – Summerhill School: A New View of Childhood by A. S. Neill
Oct 26 – The End of Average by Todd Rose
Nov 30 – Old School by Tobias Wolff (novel)
Dec 28 – [holiday break]

2018 Reading List
Jan 25 - Mindset by Carol Dweck
Feb 22 - Creative Schools by Ken Robinson
Mar 29 - Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Freire
Apr 26 - Free to Learn by Peter Gray *
May 31 - The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey
Jun 28 - Excellent Sheep by William Deresiewicz
Jul 26 - Weapons of Mass Instruction by John Taylor Gatto
Aug 30 - How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
Sep 27 - Most Likely to Succeed by Tony Wagner
Oct 25 - Teaching to Transgress by bell hooks
Nov 29 - Schools our Children Deserve by Alfie Kohn
Dec 20 - The Book of Learning and Forgetting by Frank Smith

2019 Reading List
Jan 31 - The Self-Driven Child by William R Stixrud and Ned Johnson
Feb 28 - Educated by Tara Westover
Mar 28 - How Children Succeed by Paul Tough
Apr 25 - The Creativity Challenge by Kyung-Hee Kim
May 30 - Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
Jun 27 - Nurture Shock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman
Jul 25 - Small Animals by Kim Brooks
Aug 29 - Lifelong Kindergarten by Mitchel Resnick
Sep 26 - Troublemakers by Carla Shalaby
Oct 24 - Mindset by Carol Dweck
Nov 21 - Opening Minds by Peter H. Johnston
Dec 19 - Teacher Liberation Handbook by Joel Hammon

2020 Reading List
Jan 30 - The Good Neighbor by Maxwell King
Feb 27 - A Jane Austen Education by William Deresiewicz *
Mar 26 - Hacking School Discipline by Nathan Maynard
April - Raising a Screen-Smart Kid by Julianna Miner
May - Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
June - The Years That Matter Most by Paul Tough
July - Education and the Significance of Life by Jiddu Krishnamurti
July - Learning in Depth by Kieran Egan
August - Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum
September - Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
October - Breath by James Nestor
November - Republic of Noise by Diana Seneschal
November - Make Good Art by Neil Gaiman
December - Raising Free People by Akilah Richards *

2021 Reading List
January - Curious by Ian Leslie
February - Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields
March - The Teenage Brain by Frances E Jensen, Amy Ellis Nutt
April - The Game Believes in You by Greg Toppo
May - Creating Cultures of Thinking by Ron Ritchhart
June - Balanced and Barefoot by Angela J. Hanscom
July - Readicide by Kelly Gallagher
August -Unequal Childhoods by Annette Lareau
September -The Power of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath
October - Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff
November - Caste by Isabel Wilkerson
December - Range by David Epstein

2022 Reading List
Jan - Upstream by Dan Heath
Feb - Untigering by Iris Chen *
Mar - Humankind by Rutger Bregman
Apr - The Playful Classroom by Jed Dearybury and Julie Jones
May - How Not to Be Wrong by Jordan Ellenberg
Jun - Wonder by R.J. Palacio
Jul - When You Wonder, You’re Learning by Gregg Behr
Aug - Raising Critical Thinkers by Julie Bogart *
Sep - The Power of Ritual by Casper ter Kuile
Oct - Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman *
Nov - Changing Our Minds by Naomi Fisher
Dec -The Orchid and the Dandelion by W. Thomas Boyce, M.D.

2023 Reading List
Jan - The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
Feb - Trust Kids! by carla bergman
Mar - Bringing Up Bébé by Pamela Druckerman
Apr - The Art of Talking with Children by Rebecca Rolland
May - The Danish Way of Parenting by Jessica Joelle Alexander and Iben Dissing Sandahl
Jun - The Enchanted Hour by Meghan Cox Gurdon
Jul - Good Inside by Becky Kennedy
Aug - ADHD 2.0 by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey
Sep - Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin
Oct - Sensitive by Jenn Granneman
Nov - Growing Up in Public by Devorah Heitner *
Dec - Ban This Book by Alan Gratz

Note: We changed the name of the group to Education Conversations to emphasize that we would be going well beyond the confines of schooling.
* author will be / was present for the book group discussion